This is similar to my case except the father is a violent and neglectful parent and he is a danger to the children and he is the one who has the child in an arrangement like the above due to him having taken the child from my primary care as soon as we separated as retaliation for me reporting the abuse before we separated.

In light of judges assuming (sometimes wrongly, eg my case) that "high conflict" means both parents are at fault, how does one show a judge that one parent is obsessed with getting custody to abuse the other, and the other parent is simply trying to protect their child from ongoing abuse (including a long history of physical abuse by the parent who has the child)