reply to Miranda.

Yes, we currently have interim orders. These were consent orders agreed upon between both parents and their lawyers and the ICL.

The father was to travel to the mothers area and see the child at a contact centre for 3 months. Then assess how the father and child are going.

There’s not enough evidence to show the fathers behaviour (and is likely a big reason of the refusal to use the contact centre).

The ICL hasn’t read much of our material, I honestly don’t know what she’s actually read at all.

But she seems to be on the fathers side even my lawyer has said this.

Judging by what my lawyer has said, she still wants orders for the father to see the child despite the father doing nothing to see the baby, withdrawing from court, and stating he refuses to come and see the baby. She’s aware he’s not complied with any of our orders and has said the father may be finding it too hard to use the contact centre.. I’m not sure what she means by this, but it makes no sense to me at all. The centre we agreed on is a great centre and registration and intake is very straight forward.

The father is highly controlling, possessive, aggressive and abusive and very very manipulative.

ICL wants the father to have unsupervised. Even though he’s done nothing to see the child.

My lawyer said the ICL doesn’t really believe what I’ve said and that what he’s done isn’t bad enough or recent enough. Basically said he needs to start physically abusing the baby before anything will be done.

My recent issue is that I know what he is like. I’ve lived with him and dealt with him.

He no longer has access to me despite his efforts (such as trying to have it court ordered that I am to be in the visits and trying to have it court ordered that he can call me and not be in breach of the dvo. I’m still getting calls from a blocked number with ‘someone’ just sitting and breathing on the phone).

He wanted me to abort the child. I don’t believe this is so much about the child and is more about wanting to be around me. He still seems to think there’s a chance I will take him back. 

i don’t want to simply cut off the father though. 

I just want the child to be able to be safe.